Probably most people subscribe to the belief that change is bad and something to be avoided. But why is that? In my opinion, change is good, and I think that most people would agree with me if they thought about it. Let’s take a look at all the good changes that can happen in your life: Getting a new job with a higher salary, meeting someone new and exciting, moving to a new home (I did this one last week!), discovering a new hobby, losing weight, going away to College, and changing careers to something you really love. Now, as you were reading that list, didn’t the thought of some of those things excite you? How wonderful would it be if some of those changes happened in your life?
You see, I believe that people want change. I think it’s the main reason why people come to therapy. They feel unhappy with the way things are now and want to change it. I can tell you from experience that the clients that want change, and are willing to implement it, they just don’t know how to do it, those are clients that aren’t in therapy for very long. They make progress very quickly, completely change their lives for the better, and ultimately leave therapy feeling that it was a valuable and life changing experience. There are other people who want change, but don’t want to take the actions necessary to make it happen. They are under the impression that change comes from somewhere other than themselves. Like winning the lottery, some people are just lucky and some people aren’t. They wont change to happen, but aren’t willing to do anything other than just talk about it.
The truth is: If nothing ever changes, nothing ever changes
A simple truth, that people often forget. Talking about wanting your life to change is not enough. No amount of “luck” is going to change your life. Change only comes from within. If you want to change your life, the harsh reality is that you are the only one that can change it. You are going to have to take action and it will be difficult, although often it’s not as difficult as you think it’ll be. There comes that moment when you realize that anything good in life has to worked for, but that’s okay because you can do the work. You are capable of creating the kind of life that will fulfill you. The next step is simple: Start making changes.